Do you try to be a supportive parent to your teen? But suspect that you still do a lot of micromanaging?
Well, one of my clients’ parents emailed me the other day asking how to follow up on some advice I’d given her daughter. I LOVED that she asked me this question, because it shows that she’s trying very hard to do the right thing by her teen.
In this video, I share more background on the situation and then tell you the suggestion I made to her about how to remind her daughter about the tips from our session… without micromanaging her.
Students, today you’re off the hook because I have a super hard question to ask your parents and teachers!
To all you grown ups — do you expect more of the teens in your life than you sometimes expect of yourself?
In today’s video — filmed “on location” on my parent’s front porch in Houston, Texas (I’m here for a high school friend’s wedding) — I share some reflections about a trend I’ve been noticing.
Over my 10+ years as an academic coach, I’ve been seeing an increase in adults expecting certain follow through from students that they don’t necessarily expect of themselves! I give two examples, one about teachers and another about parents. Please check out the video to hear more!
Also, if you’re ready to walk your talk, parents and educators, I highly encourage you to sign up for my FREE Masterclass: The Study Cycle Live! which will teach you how to actually get students to study effectively for tests and quizzes. Let’s learn how to apply the Study Cycle in our own lives AS WELL AS learn to teach it to students?
After all, we ALL would benefit from learning how to save time and energy by studying strategically.
Has your school gone digital, but you and your kiddo are at a loss on how to keep assignments straight?
I’d like you to meet Marni Pasch, one of my star Anti-Boring Approach™ Certified Coaches. It’s August, we’re all revving up for the new school year, AND I’m excited to show off the expertise of the coaches who’ve gone through my Art of Inspiring Students to Study Strategically training.
Towards the end of the last school year, Marni had a student who couldn’t keep track of their assignments because their school had gone digital! Keeping paper assignments organized has its own challenges for teenage students, but organizing digital assignments can also be quite a headache.
Marni’s student figured out a modern way to survive in a digital school system… and Marni shows off this simple but brilliant idea in the following video:
Most of us have smart phones these days, and many of us depend on a number of different apps to keep us organized.
With a certain subset of my teen clients, however, I’ve noticed that they don’t have their time management apps organized in such a way that they are easily found.
Check out the video below to discover a simply tweak that every student should consider to make their most important time management apps more accessible.
I’ll also introduce you to the most important time management apps to prioritize when you reorganize your home page.
If you would like some study tips head on over to the College Prep Podcast site. I co-host a weekly podcast with Megan Dorsey and we discuss a wide range of academic topics, including things like “How to Make Your Final College Decision.”
By mid-semester students’ time management routines have often weakened or collapsed.
Consider these four questions when giving your routines a makeover so that you can make it to the end of the semester with your grades and self esteem intact:
First, do you have a weekly planning routine? This can be a helpful Sunday task to help you look ahead and plan for the week ahead.
Second, do you have a daily routine to do right before and after your homework? This can be helpful to make sure you are adjusting your weekly plan as needed, with every new assignment your teachers give.
Third, if the daily routine doesn’t work for you, are you doing a midweek check-in ritual? This enables you to check off items from your To Do list, add new items, and make a plan for the weekend, so that you take action rather than procrastinate during your “off” time.
Finally, do you have a plan for accountability? Who else besides you can know about your plans and help make sure you feel a low-grade pressure to follow through?
How much can a student’s behavior truly change after a semester of coaching?
In today’s episode, Gretchen walks us through a sixteen year old’s reflections about how he has grown as a result of academic coaching.
The following eight ideas resulted from a brainstorm during this young man’s final coaching session, during which he and Gretchen reviewed what he has learned and what habits he would like to maintain:
1. The Set Up Routine
2. Doing Spanish hw first
3. All the different study tools from the Anti-Boring Approach to Powerful Studying
4. Self Advocacy.
5. Keeping a Planner.
6. Finishing homework by a reasonable hour
7. Take advantage of meds before they wear off.
8. Marking period supply clean out.
There’s a theme that’s popping up in every corner of my coaching practice these days, and it is:
Emotion and cognition are inextricably linked!
We academics like to think that it’s possible to learn facts and skills in a totally rational way, divorced from emotion. But that’s just not true!
Also, in a separate but related fact of the contemporary world, more and more teens and young adults are being diagnosed with high level anxiety.
In this video, I reflect about these two facts, and tell two stories: one from the course I’m teaching for educators, and another from a coaching session with a high school senior.
Check it out!
P.S. Here is the article that I mention in the video. And the book I’m excited to read is The Spark of Learning: Energizing the College Classroom with the Science of Emotion, by Sarah Rose Cavanagh (2016)
Students need to become familiar with failure earlier than their parents often let them.
Megan and Gretchen discuss why it is important to let student fail small in the younger grades, and provide tips for how parents might back off as students transition from elementary to middle to high school.
Teens often start their coaching sessions with me super emotional. “Do you know what just happened?! My parents just ambushed me!” We then spend the next 5-10 minutes of our session processing anger, resignation, and tears.
An ambush is a surprise attack. For teens, this means that they’re often going about their day, feeling pretty good and with their own sense of a plan for what needs to be done. And then wham!! Suddenly they are faced with an angry parent accusing them of getting a zero on an assignment, or not following up with a task they were supposed to do.
In this video, we look at how to catch yourself when you might be about to ambush your teen, and what to do instead. After all, if a student feels accused, they’re less likely to follow through on the task that you think they should be doing! So you can’t really go wrong if you spend time learning how to communicate in a way a teenager can hear.
Check out the video here:
If you are a teacher, tutor, or academic coach, or perhaps even a parent, interested in learning about how to help your students become independent learners and test-taking powerhouses, please consider checking out my course, The Art of Inspiring Students to Study Strategically.
Is there a teenager in your life who seems overly dramatic? As a parent, are you often accused of yelling when you think you’re talking in a reasonable tone?
Over the years, I’ve had a number of students who complain that their parents yell too much, but the parents insist that their teenager is exaggerating.
I often find that families benefit from hearing about a research study that explains why this disconnect might be happening. Check out the video for details (and if you happen to know where I can find the study that I describe here, please let me know!! I can’t find it!).
If you are a parent looking for help for your child or a teacher looking for study tips for your students take a look at The Anti-Boring Approach!
Do you ever make stupid mistakes on your math tests because you’re hurrying too much?
I have a client who was consistently scoring a letter grade lower every test because of silly mistakes. My solution for him? Check out the video for details about what it means to “study “in the manner of the test” and how we apply this idea to math tests to simulate the time deadline, and eradicate silly mistakes.
Check out the video here:
Don’t have time to watch the video? This picture pretty much sums it up:
If you study in the manner of a test. Meaning, the three things listed above. First you need to set a time limit so that you can get in the practice of having a set amount of time. Then, you need to focus on all the things you did in past tests that caused you to get the answers wrong. After your done count your mistakes. Do this a few times a week to get in some good practice for an upcoming test.
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Are you (or a student you love) naturally good at taking tests? Do you have to do minimal, or no, studying for your chapter tests… but then suddenly discover you’re not ready for final exams?
It’s frustrating, isn’t it?! The info got into your short term memory enough for the chapter test, but then disappeared by the time finals rolled around.
A client of mine discovered he was in this situation related to his Spanish final exam. In this video, I tell you more details about how I worked with this client over the course of the semester, knowing full well that he might have a harder time come final exams, but wanting him to see it for himself.
My patience paid off, and now he is motivated to do a new study tweak this upcoming semester that is going to save him time NEXT time finals roll around.
Check out the video for the whole story:
Don’t have time for the full video? No worries, here’s a short synopsis:
In this video we learn that even if you do not have to study each test during the year you may need it in the end when it comes final exam time. The best way to overcome this in the future would be to create a quizzable study chart after each chapter for the review for your final exam!
If you are a teacher, tutor, or academic coach, or perhaps even a parent, interesting in learning more about not only tiny habits but about how to help your students become independent learners and test-taking powerhouses, please consider checking out my course Should I Grow My Biz As An Academic Coach?