Teens tell fibs more often than parents wish. Some of them are pre-meditated and manipulative, but often they are a primal response to fear, especially in students with learning differences like ADHD.
In this episode, Gretchen walks you through her notes from a great presentation she heard at last November’s International ADHD Conference. The presentation was called “Beyond Fight, Flight & Freeze: Is There a Fourth F?” and was presented by Barbara Brikey Hunter and Monica Hassal.
Specifically, she shares Hunter and Hassal’s thoughts about:
How the original three F’s of Flight/Fright/Freeze are connected to the nervous system’s primal response to fear, and why Fib might be the fourth F
How to talk to students about the effect that primal responses have in the brain
The acronym SPEED and how it represents fiver different reasons why students might be afraid in the moment, prompting them to Fib
The acronyms WIN and COOL, which represent how to support both the student and the parent in responding a fib when it’s taken place
Some specific phrases parents and educators can say when “catching” a student in a fib
How do parents and teachers support students in becoming more and more independent?
Elaine Taylor-Klaus from ImpactADHD walks us through the four phases of transition in the adult/student relationship, and shares how taking on a Coach Approach to communicating with teens can help smooth out the bumps in these transitions.
Specifically she shares:
What’s the difference between supporting versus enabling students
What the four phases are in the adult/student relationship
How to help make the transition between these phases more flow and fewer bumps
A simple behavior tip that can make a big difference in parent/student communication
Elaine Taylor-Klaus, PCC, CPCC is a certified coach and author, the co-Founder of ImpactADHD® and co-creator of Sanity School® — a behavior management training program. A sought after speaker and presenter at national conferences, Elaine provides online training, coaching and support for parents and teachers of “complex” kids around the globe. Regularly featured in ADDitude and Attention magazines, she is the co-author of Parenting ADHD Now! Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD, and the mother of 3 young adults an ADHD Family of 5. You can find a wealth of resources on her award-winning blog at ImpactADHD.com.
Do you ever struggle to read difficult texts? I’ve had a few different videos on this topic lately because it’s such a buggaboo for many of my clients.
In today’s video we explore a way to THINK about reading that might shift your ability to understand what’s in the text.
This tip comes to you courtesy of a client of mine, who made a brilliant observation about her own reading process. I just LOVE IT when my clients try the techniques I give them, but then come back with an even more brilliant observation of what works for them.
Check out the video to learn a small little tweak my client has made in her thinking that has given her the grit to get through a difficult reading.
Below are two questions about the SAT and Advanced Placement tests that we got recently from two moms:
(1) “I just heard someone talking about their 2nd child who took a gap year and delayed taking the SAT until after high school. For kids who just aren’t ready for college or who haven’t progressed to Pre-Calc by their junior or senior year, is there a benefit, or even an option, of taking the tests later?”
(2) “A fellow mom and I have been having a long conversation about what colleges can and can’t see from your college testing record. This includes your SAT scores, your SAT subject test scores, your AP scores. […] My question is – can you still list [a course] as an AP course, but not report your testing score (say you do great in the class, but not so great on the test or does that look like your school is weak?) Or do you only report the class as an AP course if you have a score that is worthy of reporting? Otherwise would you simply call it Honors?”
Do you, or a student you love, struggle to keep a calendar?
I’d like you to meet Sarah Weidman, one of my star Anti-Boring Approach™ Certified Coaches. It’s August, we’re all revving up for the new school year, AND I’m excited to show off the expertise of the coaches who now use my Anti-Boring Study Cycle model in their coaching (learn it for free here!).
Towards the end of the last school year, Sarah had a client who told her that she didn’t like keeping a calendar. She felt overwhelmed by all of the assignments and activities listed. Sarah totally understood where her client was coming from (that’s the sign of a good coach!) and worked with this young woman’s concerns.
Tune in to discover the steps they took to make calendaring less overhwhelming… and more useful.
Has your school gone digital, but you and your kiddo are at a loss on how to keep assignments straight?
I’d like you to meet Marni Pasch, one of my star Anti-Boring Approach™ Certified Coaches. It’s August, we’re all revving up for the new school year, AND I’m excited to show off the expertise of the coaches who’ve gone through my Art of Inspiring Students to Study Strategically training.
Towards the end of the last school year, Marni had a student who couldn’t keep track of their assignments because their school had gone digital! Keeping paper assignments organized has its own challenges for teenage students, but organizing digital assignments can also be quite a headache.
Marni’s student figured out a modern way to survive in a digital school system… and Marni shows off this simple but brilliant idea in the following video:
It’s possible to receive accommodations on the SAT & ACT for students with physical or learning differences. However (and this is a super important point for families of these kinds of students): you need to apply in advance.
Both SAT & ACT have tried to make the process easier, but unfortunately not all families know this is an option.
I’m so excited to introduce you to Nicole de Picciotto, who is a wiz at coaching students and one of my brand new Anti-Boring Approach™ certified coaches. Now that it’s August, it’s time to start up with our study tips to get the school year started (don’t know if you noticed, but we took a little break in June and July). So let’s get started with a math tip!
Last school year Nicole had a client who would tense up whenever she encountered an unfamiliar math problem. As they brainstormed how to solve this, she and her client came up with three steps to help her relax. It turns out that the more she could relax when she worked, the more confident she’d feel, which led to her doing a better job at math! Go figure.
Check it out here:
Here are the tips we came up with to help her feel more confident and successful with math!
1) Get comfortable with not knowing what to do. Take a deep breath. Relax and just start with what you know.
2) Remind yourself that it’s ok to be confused and not know how to proceed.
3) Let yourself be a curious explorer and discover what to do next rather than fixating on the right answer.
Want more of Nicole? She’s a GREAT academic life coach based in Portland Oregon, but available anywhere thanks to the miracle of the internet. Contact her For more information about Nicole de Picciotto and Academic Life Coaching, visit nicoledcoaching.com
Do you ever review your lecture notes after you take them?
Most people don’t… mostly because it seems like a lot of work and they don’t know how.
This simple note taking tip could change your entire ability to learn effectively. It’s not easy, but if you could get yourself to do it — you’d e so much more ready for every test and feel that much more confident as a learner
If this anti-boring tip delights you and you want more from where this came from:
How well do you rest? Are you a pro at taking deliberate down time, or do you struggle to keep up with all your responsibilities?
I try to be good at taking time to rest, but after reading this book I realize I haven’t been deliberate enough about my rest.
In this final post about the power of rest, based on the book Rest: How to Get More Done When You Work Less, , I say more about what it means to rest deliberately, and share five different ways to rest. Which ones are you good at? Which could you stand to improve?
I also do a little reflecting on how hard it is for high school students to rest effectively, given their tight schedules and mountains of work.
Check it out here:
As summer comes to an end, I recommend challenging yourself to rest in all five of these ways — and then see how many you can continue to do once the school year starts up again.