I recently went on a first date with a man who’d been cleaning out his bookshelves. He gave me Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Naomi Remen.
Tonight, I stumbled across this sage advice:
Everyone’s wholeness is unique and even such common role models as Eleanor Roosevelt and Albert Schweitzer can distance us from ourselves. Our wholeness will look different than theirs. Our wholeness fits us better than theirs. Our wholeness is much more attainable for us than theirs ever could be. here bibliography format mla enter site write definition argumentative essay murder essay go to site http://www.nationalnewstoday.com/medical/who-invented-viagra/2/ literature review eating disorder counselor intern resume go to link professional thesis statement writers sites online about me essay ocdsb homework help english essays books pdf source aqa unit 5 biology essay help cheap thesis proposal editor websites for university accounting homework help free dissertation ideas follow site liquid viagra and cialis writing my dissertation essay writing service us does old viagra still woek get paid edit essays http://www.chesszone.org/lib/buy-viva-paper-towels-canada-2619.html writing quotes in an essay what freedom means to me essay https://pharmacy.chsu.edu/pages/samples-of-a-report-format/45/ my mum essay macbeth conclusion essay http://www.nationalnewstoday.com/medical/levitra-vs-viagra-which-is-better/2/ We usually look outside of ourselves for heroes and teachers. It has not occurred to most people that they may already be the role model they seek. (p. 106)
The truth of this line enveloped me like a warm fog, settling around…and even into…me. Straight to the heart.
You mean…I don’t have to try to be like others who I think are better than me? I can be my own role model?!
In the past I’ve known this to be truth. In fact, this idea — we can trust ourselves, and we have much inner wisdom to teach ourselves — is the crux of my academic/life coaching with teenagers. It is also the basis of what we InterPlayers call “inner authority.”
But knowing something is vastly different than internalizing truth.
This New Years I made the shift from knowing to internalizing by making a simple commitment: to meditate for 5 minutes a day for 365 days. (Read here for more info about how I came up with this resolution in the first place). I *had thought* that this commitment meant traditional meditation, as in: follow my breath. Or recite a mantra.
But on January 1st as I sat down to do my first 5 minutes, a different kind of meditation emerged: I imagined myself hugging myself. I didn’t plan in advance to do it; it just…uhhh…kinda happened. Lo and behold, I’ve now imagined hugging myself for 5 minutes a day for almost 19 days.
Sometimes I imagine I’m hugging myself as a baby. Other times, I’ve become giant-sized, and I’m enveloping my grown-up self with my oversized arms. Each day it’s different. And fun!!! For the first time in my life, I actually look FORWARD to my meditation time. It’s no longer a *should*; it’s now a delight.
I’m noticing that this self-designed meditation is changing me. For example:
But today I imagined myself hugging that Mean Inner Critic. “It’s OK. I’m here. Let me hold you. Relax into my arms…” The self flaggelating thoughts stopped. Just like that. Zzzt.
But it still feels magical.